Our own Backyard…..
by GrowingFlowers
There is a lot of suffering in this world. I feel like we walk the days trying to prevent pain, often I do, anyhow. Yet here it is. Over and over again.
Our societies are suffering, our friends are suffering. I live quite fearful of more suffering. I know that is not how I would like to live, but I do.
I worry all the time about my family. About my friends.
And with regularity the tragedies strike. Sometimes far away and sometimes really, really close to home. Close to us. With us.
So what do we do?
What do you do? Here’s what I do:
-Nothing. I try to escape the feelings, but can’t.
-Then I feel it – coming through me completely. Crying happens.
-Grief counseling has been helpful too. We have good resources here. It’s hard to go, to feel like I should. But it was so good to go.
-I guess slowing down helps – but so does speeding up. I’ve realized though, the “being- busy” coping style only puts off the pain. It still comes around.
- Eckhart Tolle helped. His message, again and again of being only in the exact moment you are in – works. So much pain is from agonizing about events in the past and worry about the future. These are places we have no control over. Just experience the moment you are in. But really, really try to do that. It is almost impossible. Practice it – a lot!
- Love your family. Hug them. Cuddle them. Breathe them in. They won’t be there forever. (Oh God.)
-Enjoy those good sunny moments. Or those rainy ones. Just really do it. Pay attention.
I need some more. What do you do to get through the grief – the kind that washes over you physically almost?
It’s so hard. For me, a lot of space and quiet time is required. I cry a lot, hold my sweet boy and do my best to consume as little media coverage as possible. I light a candle and each time I look at it I send love and strength and peace to all those affected. I also use that light as an opportunity to be thankful for all that I have, to remember that it won’t last forever, much like the light. So I do my best to not hold on too tight…but to simply share all the love I have, as long as I can…as long as there are people to receive it.
Sending love and peace to your heart, K.xo
Thank you Debbie….
This is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank You.
That is so kind Rochelle – it is what I needed to write today too…so thank you!
Being with small children helps me tremendously. You forget everything else but the moment. At this time, their innocence and wonder of everything in their little world will provide comfort!
Yes – and that is exactly what I did today. I borrowed one of “my babies…”
You are so right!
so sorry thanks for your blog post is incredibly sad